Women: Don't Get Hoodwinked By The Wrong Man ☕

Coffee Cup Four ☕

Notice: We were given permission from this woman to write about her experience with this inmate. In return we kept her name anonymous. Not all women, or men experience the fate of meeting someone like an inmate. Some of the relationships turn out perfect...and then there are some turned out like what this woman went through. 

Hoodwinked! For us that is a powerful word for being hurt by someone who used and abused the goodness from one's heart. "I choose to keep this person (this woman) anonymous in order to protect her identity." What happen to this woman was down right wrong and she didn't deserve what she got from this inmate who got nothing but goodness, kindness, honesty, trust and respect from this woman who was trying to give him a chance at life and having a life her. She started seeing this inmate on a regular basis (like every other week) on Saturday's. 

He accepted her visits without hesitation. We imagined when we were told about her first meeting from this inmate, it was totally like a blind date with a bad man, but she risked herself and gave him a chance to have a life on the inside and on the outside to get to know her. We thought...she was not obligated to give this guy the time of day. This one was very awesome woman at heart. We were told by her that this inmate saw what she looked like and was excited to see and meet her. 

They sat and talked for hours during their visit together, ate lunch and visited another couple more visiting hours were over. She told me that they hit it off just like that, but needed more time to get to know one another. We said, "Be careful...this man is in prison and GOD and his son JESUS only knows what his sins are and all of the charges against him." Every other Saturday, this woman was taken in by this inmate until they started writing letters to one another months later, creating a strong friendship between them. Needless to say, what was said in those letters between the two, had become very serious. 

"This was within months of their encounter." Their feelings were more serious to the point; we saw this woman getting head over heels in love with this inmate. What she told us about the inmate, it bothered us to the point we just wanted to tell her to get out of that so called relationship she was in with him and move on with her life. We also wanted to tell her, "Don't waste anymore of your time with this inmate!" She then told us, that the inmate showed her a great time; they ate lunch together and talked about his life before and after he was incarcerated, but didn't have real interest in her life in general. 

No real big conversation about her life and what she was all about, especially when it was time for her to leave after a long visitation with this inmate. She said, "He would give her a huge hug" and after wards...he would never gave her a second look no matter what, like he was excited to see her go. We asked her when she came to inform us about her visitation with the inmate. We told her, "Don't go back to visit him, or write any more letters to him." We also told her if this guy can't give her a second look after she leave him after long hours of visitation with him...giving him time out of her life; her day to come to see him when she's not obligated to give him the time of day. 

We told this woman, please...stop visiting this inmate before it's too late and move on with her life. Get a better man for her life, and not one on the way down to despair.  A man with total respectful, honesty, loving, trustworthy and going somewhere with his life. We told her to get a man who would want to share his life, his love, his respect for her by accepting her for her in his life. She really didn't take heed to what we told her. 

She continued on seeing this inmate every other Saturday and writing letters without halting between visits and the letters with him. Months had passed. This woman (from what she told me) continued to remain head over heels in love with this inmate (we guessed) from what he wrote in his letters. Our thoughts, "He told her everything from what she wanted her to hear about him and what she thought he was all about to trap her growing love for him; so that she can gain trust in him." More like control over her thoughts of him and over her. 

We let her go! We watched this woman's life deteriorate before our eyes before she could see the problem concerning this inmate head on. From what we imagined from this inmate, he was really using this woman for his own needs in pampering him while he was incarcerated. We didn't want to judge him no more than we can see in our hearts.  This inmate wasn't giving her what she was giving him. 

"Time, respect, trust, honesty and love." He took this woman for her kindness and her goodness and everything else until the day he got out of prison. "We actually saw her fate!" It was very sad she didn't see it coming and we warned her about this inmate and according to her; what she said he was all about. From the inmate: "No changes, no respect, no life, no problem...so as long as "you" take care of my needs while I'm incarcerated and until I get out of prison; I will then move on to what's out there for "me" in the world to take advantage." 

We also told her, "Until he returns to prison." Her ultimate fate was revealed after five and a half months. Everything we warned her about came to past. She told us the day this inmate got out of prison, he continued seeing her for a brief moment. After two visits, he stopped seeing,or even calling her. 

The ex inmate was always hard for her to reach him every time this woman looked around in order to continue a relationship with him. She found that he always made plans with other people (the ones who helped) put him in prison in the first place. This ex inmate seemed more interested in spending his time the people who helped put him in prison instead of the woman who gave him the time of day out of her life to spend time with him while he was incarcerated. "Everyday this woman gave of herself to this inmate, We saw what her fate as she continued to waste time from her own life with this worthless inmate, who didn't have the decency to respect a good woman when he saw himself with one." 

What a total waste of a good woman this inmate could of had for infinity!  If he would of just opened his eyes, took her into his stoned heart, showed her respect and honesty, and gave a heck about her, he would of acknowledged, "What the heck I'm doing messing over this good woman I was blessed with?  He had no heart and no common sense to know he had a good woman in his blind presents. He didn't care. 

Wow! What a waste. We also told by this woman, that this particular inmate she was involved for almost six months actual said according to one of her letters she revealed to us, "Inmates get judged from their lives and the way they lived their lives on the inside and the outside by women who don't give them a chance to have a good woman in their lives to spend time with, love, and respect." Our thoughts about what this inmate said to her in his letter to her, "If he had any heart, mind or soul for a good woman when he had one, he wouldn't of been judged by his character if he would of gave a dang about the good woman he had right in front of his face while and when he was incarcerated. 

Nonetheless...this woman learned her lesson about having a relationship with an inmate. She wants nothing to do with any inmate. We said, "This ruins it for inmates who want to change their lives on the inside and outside of prison in order to have their prize waiting for them once they got out of prison and after founding themselves with life, before giving life to another. "Being hoodwinked and bamboozled is no joke ladies." This post also applies to men too. More like...turning this post around as an opposite of what women go through and put themselves in a position to be hurt.